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Woohoo! my business cards are in. Now to share with friends, co-workers and the local midwifery.
I’m not in love with them but they are good for a first timer business owner. next time I’d likely make the font a bit bigger and lose the grey (hard to read). The positives are my logo rocks! Who wants one?
I asked Kristy to share a few things about her parenting style with a Q and A style blog post. Kristy has been a big support and a reminder of why our family chose to parent the way we are, gentle parenting, vaccines, breastfeeding and babywearing are all topics I have gone to Kristy for her point of view. Our families are entirely different– a big difference is I am a mother of 1 and Kristy is a mother of 9 and a grandmother to 1. Even though I have not met Kristy in person I feel blessed to have her in my life, she is constantly reinforcing my decisions with evidence based information and a caring heart. check out her Facebook page at https://www.facebook.com/LittleGreenEarthlings
Would you consider yourself an attachment parent?
-Yes—— While I do consider myself an attached parent, I am also human. I am not a robot and therefore I also have emotions. I can lose my temper. I yell. I always tell my children that I am in a bad mood for whatever reason and if I am snarky with them I apologize for my behavior. We need to be good examples to our children. If we treat them how we would like to be treated, everything will be ok. Love, compassion, patience, empathy, understanding and fun make a good recipe for raising wonderful humans
What does attachment parenting mean to you?
– I am very emotionally and physically attached to my kids. I have evolved SOOOOO much as a parent over the (almost) 23 years that I have been a mother. It’s amazing the amount I have had to UN-learn! When my oldest daughter was a baby, she was born in the hospital and taken to the nursery during the night. I was told to only feed every 4 hours and supplement with formula so she would get everything she needed. As she got a bit older, in order to train her to sleep through the night I was advised to let her cry. ……. Alone…….. In her room
Sadly I did what our doctor and parents recommended and I STILL feel the guilt. It is so disturbing that we are still taught by some old school thinkers out there NOT to trust our natural animal instincts!
When I had my second child I knew that I did NOT want to do that to her. She slept in my arms from day 1. She didn’t touch a bottle in the hospital. I listened to her and responded to what she needed. She was happy and content.
Babies have feelings that matter JUST AS MUCH as adults. Children have feelings that matter JUST AS MUCH as adults. I truly believe that their feelings need to be put first and we need to respect the feelings they have whether it makes sense to us or not. If a child is frightened about something that makes no sense to us, we need to comfort that child rather than brush it off and dismiss them.
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Something I’ve been hearing more and more often is “when are you having another baby?” My daughter is 3.5 years and I can tell acquaintances and clients at work are on ‘baby bump spotting’. Continuously judging my belly and really I just skipped my run for the day and had an extra helping of dinner the night before.
My answer is often “not anytime soon” or “I get my baby fix with my doula clients”… On occasion I get really adamant people who are insisting I am not being the best mother to Mia because I’m not giving her a sibling. I mean, is it really their business? They don’t know my personal life, my family life or my health issues I have been working through for the last 4.5 years (edit- 7.5 years). They don’t know I had a hysterectomy a year ago because i had cancer. And do they need to? Part of me wants to say “I’d love to but I’m missing my uterus” (spiteful maybe?!) The other part of me wants run away and cry and the 3rd part wants to educate. I want to educate people about cancer below the belt and I want people to get regular pap testing. I want to educate people on the challenge it was to get pregnant and the fact that many other woman have a challenging time as well for varying reasons…. And lastly educate people on being happy, content and mindful of their own lives and kiss all the sweet children they have been blessed to have.
Edit- June 2016 and Mia is 6.5 years old. She now has the knowledge of anatomy to know that Mommy doesn’t have a uterus and proudly shares this with alone that will listen. Do her friends or class mates know what a uterus is?! Probably not, but after spending some time with Mia, she will teach them.
I am a huge fan of babywearing! I get so excited and passionate about this topic. I feel like babywearing could change your life.
I want people to realize that a newborns life is disrupted by birth. I mean the environment in utero is automatically regulated to the baby and suddenly (or 4 hours of pushing later) the environment changes. Besides having to breath and eat by themselves, babies are now in a bright, noisy world…..They are no longer being gently rocked back in forth with the soothing sound of their mothers voice present. Imagine being carried in a sling or an ergonomically correct carrier? Really it is similar to being in the womb. Mom is walking, baby is rocking and comforted by the sound they have heard all along, the sound of their mothers voice and their mothers heartbeat. You grew this baby inside of you for 9 months and change is hard. Don’t expect your tiny brand-new baby to adjust to the world so quickly.Ease them into it.
Others benefits of babywearing are:
Babies that are worn, cry less and therefore they learn more. They are learning more because babies spend more time in a quiet alertness and they are able to connect with the new world around them when they are not crying. Dr. Sears also says “It may be called the optimal state of learning for a baby. Researchers have also reported that carried babies show enhanced visual and auditory alertness.” Parents are more confident. With your baby close to you it helps you get to know them. You’ll learn their cues before they want to eat, sleep and poo. Because you are so close you notice their facial expressions and body language. This is all part of the attachment between a parent and child. It helps the baby learn that their parent follows their prompts and they are rewarded with a snuggle, milk or a clean diaper.
Convenience- as your baby gets bigger and you feel motivate, inspired, empowered, ok fine…… obligated to clean the house. This a challenging as you are breastfeeding or caring for siblings, but in a carrier you still have your hands free (YES, you can breastfeed with practice in a carrier with no hands!) This gives you time to eat, pee and check your Pinterest account.
Baby carriers are also surprisingly enjoyable to use with older babies and toddlers. Some carriers are designed to carry up to 45 lbs. There are many times where I pull my Ergo out of my car in a panic because I am late and have to walk somewhere quickly. I can get out of my car, put my 3 1/2 year old in the ergo, run up a flight of stairs, zig-zagging across the mall dodging shoppers faster with the carrier than if I had my stroller. Hiking and navigating through busy airports all can be done with ease when you use a baby carrier.
Lastly enjoy… Your baby/toddler/preschooler will not want to be carried across the stage at their High School graduation. So relax and take pleasure on holding your child close to you and cherish the little moments.
